6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
God is such a great father and He loves us so much. He loves us enough to save us from ourselves and our desires in the wrong season. For example, I thought that I would have been married by the age of 22, no later than 23, now here I am at the tender age of 30 single – without a prospect in sight.
After I graduated from undergrad boyfriendless, I wasn’t worried. In my adult years, I have always considered myself attractive (even with my extended waistline) and I thought it would take no time for my future husband to spot me out of a large crowd… and then my ex of 2 years found me (I’ll save that story for another post). Since God is such a good father, He saved me from that treacherous “relationship” and I have been single for 5 years and counting. During my single years, God has done some pretty AMAZING things in my life: I bought a house, earned an MBA, began working at my dream organization and met some pretty interesting people along the way. I just have not been pursued by my future husband (that I know of) yet. Even though God had practically pulled out the red carpet for me and my life and gave me more than I could have ever expected, I still had the nerve to feel slighted because I didn’t have what I thought I needed the most, a marriage. One day, after years of moaning and complaining, the Lord told me to lose my expectations and to lean on him, not my own understanding.
As hard as it was to hear those words, it was exactly what I needed. I had to lose my expectations so that I could thoroughly enjoy the blessings that the Lord already gave me instead of grumbling about what has yet to come. I believe that one day I will be married but I have to be okay with the fact that today I am not. I refuse to waste another year complaining or shed another tear because I am single (nope, not going to do it devil). Losing my expectation of being married by 23, then 25 and then 30 or even being married at all has given me such a freedom. If you are struggling with your life not meeting your personal expectations, whether it is earning a degree, owning your own business, getting married, having children or finally receiving your promotion, pray to God and ask Him to remove all of your expectations and teach you how to submit to His will. I challenge you to lose all of expectations that you have placed in your own lives and live each day joyous, intentional and free in Christ Jesus.